Yes, ladies and gentleman, life can get BORING!
Loneliness is an emotion that most people experience at some point or another in their life. For some the feeling is brief, lasting no more than a few hours or a couple of days. For others, it is an ongoing problem lasting months or even years. These people hate to feel lonely, hate that they are being weighed down by an indefinable emotion, but don't know what steps, if any, they can take to throw the weight off. The biggest factors resulting in loneliness are a lack of meaningful relationships and the loss of confidence in oneself. While it may take some work, there are quite a few activities you can do to battle this emotion. There are unhealthy solutions people try as well, but they typically don’t work. Loneliness doesn't have to be a part of life, and you can learn to feel content and happy no matter where you are or what your situation in life happens to be.
To combat loneliness, look around at your physical world and ask yourself a few questions. How often do you go out? Do you have close friends that you do things with, or do you only contact your friends once a month? Do you have interests and hobbies that you pursue, or do you simply wish you would pursue them? Positive social contact with others can help pull you out of the feeling of loneliness because it enables you to see that there really are things in life worth doing, and people worth knowing. Pursue relationships with your friends, or create new ones. Start to plan dinner dates or a get-together. If your friends share your interests, create time to work on these interests together. Don't ever think that you aren't worth befriending, because you are. You are uniquely you and that makes you worth knowing. Finding women to date has never gotten easier.
Lots of people combat loneliness by creating new relationships with people that share a common interest. Book clubs, craft groups, religious groups, or any group that offers a connection with people can be beneficial. When you join a group you get the social interaction you need as well as the confidence-boosting satisfaction of learning something new, gaining a higher understanding of what you already knew, or creating something beautiful with your own hands. You build new friendships while simultaneously building confidence in yourself, it doesn't have to be like the German's say, "ein einsam weg".
Volunteer work is another great way to stop the feelings of loneliness from taking root. When you volunteer your take yourself out of the picture for a while and move your focus to helping somebody else. There is something about serving others that has the power to make you, the person serving, feel good. It doesn't matter whether you volunteer at a soup kitchen, a charity house, or simply visit the elderly. The act of focusing on another person's happiness for a short amount of time can do wonders to boost your mood and to increase your feelings of value for yourself. When volunteering, you are also creating social connections, especially if you have fellow volunteers. These connections are powerful because you are working together to achieve a common goal. This creates unity, which makes it easier to break down mental walls and get to really know a person.
In an effort to feel connected with another person and to cover the loneliness, many people turn to unhealthy intimate relationships, thinking that physical involvement will solve the problem. This is a recipe for disaster. These relationships only heighten the feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness that created the loneliness in the first place. Also, it can be difficult to remain emotionally unattached in a physical relationship and too often the relationships fall apart, leaving one or both parties hurting and even lonelier. Another unhealthy move people make is to turn to alcohol. For a few hours this may work great, letting you forget the reasons behind your loneliness, but it's not a permanent solution. Using alcohol as a relief all the time is like putting a small band aid on a heavily bleeding gash. It may stop the problem momentarily, but within a short time the problem will be back, usually worse than it was before.
One of the biggest causes of loneliness is a loss of value in yourself and confidence in yourself as a person. By taking the steps to create meaningful relationships, whether it’s through a craft group, book club, or volunteer service, you are taking the steps to create that missing value for yourself, which leads to finding value in yourself. You never want to rely too much on these relationships, however, because the solution to loneliness is to learn to be happy with yourself. Meaningful relationships can help you get to this point, but they are simply a stepping stone. Create them, nourish them, and through them you may find that you can see yourself in a better light and learn to be happy with yourself.
Affairs are an extreme measure to combat loneliness, but none the less they are exciting, bring about rejuvenation, and helps get you out of that mundane rut you have been stuck in. Having an affair is not for everyone or even the best way to find companionship and avoid loneliness, but affairs have actually improved many marriages and relationships. Ashley Madison is a married dating service that caters to lonely housewives who are seeking a physical or emotional connection or relationship with another man. If you are single, you may even find a partner who shares your boredom and loneliness. Shouldn't you at least join for free and see what kind of excitement you have been missing?